Dig yourself out of the hole

We often find ourselves in holes. Places we never intended to be, but we can learn how to dig our way out of the hole.

Every day I pick up my little trowel and dig another step out of the hole that I am in. Every day a little more light fills my life and every day is a millimeter away from where I once was.

No one knows coal like a coal miner.

This is lived truth.

Dirt, dust, sweat, disappointment, the road less traveled.

I’ve seen others dig themselves out of old prehistoric holes that they have landed themselves in. It took a while, but they got there, and they are so much the better for it.

They needed a coach—a digging guide. I handed them a small garden trowel, and we began the dig.

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

Portia Nelson puts it so well.

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I still don’t see it. I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
It isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there, I still fall in.
It’s habit. It’s my fault. I know where I am.
I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down a different street.
Portia Nelson

Sadly, many people find themselves in holes and don’t know how to get out.

Some have become resigned to being in their hole. They have made it their home. Its familiar has a certain comfort, and they can’t imagine a world different from the homely hole they have fashioned.

But, unless you are a Hobbitt, you were never meant to live in a hole.

Just You, the Hole, and a Spade

Many people who come to this website do it anonymously. They’re looking for help, to escape their hole, to change their autobiography.

They want the magic fix, but honestly, there is none.

Recovery and life change come down to you, the hole, and a small spade chipping away a millimeter at a time.

There is a plan, and I want to share it with you.

Dig your way out

In this course, there are videos, audio files, and printed notes.

It’s Pay What You Want because I don’t want money to be a barrier to anyone getting the help they need.

If you cant, afford to give anything, that’s fine, but please share about this course with your friends. You can always come back later and drop a coin in the support box.


    • Introduction
    • Lesson One: Millimetres Matter
    • Lesson Two: Knowing your nest
    • Lesson Three: Getting to know you
    • Lesson Four: Getting to know your hole
    • Lesson Five: Creating a Digging Plan
    • Lesson Six: Creating a thinking compass
    • Lesson Seven: Taking action
    • Lesson Eight: Summary

This is a simple course, nothing too complex, and it’s straightforward to complete.

I think it will change your life.

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When You Find Yourself in a Dark Hole, Start Digging