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Why Men Don’t Talk. 26 Reasons for Silence

Men aren’t talking, but they need to. We need to enter the cave of man’s mind and encourage him to talk. Words flow when we listen well. It was early in the morning, and I was driving to the first job of the day. The day was starting dark, cold, […]

God Sets the Lonely in Families

God Sets the Lonely in Families

When trouble comes, we can quickly isolate ourselves, but there needs to be an invitation to go deep and connect. God sets the lonely in families.  We need others who will tag along and pray with us.  It must have been a very lonely place. He had done everything he […]

Is my Mental Illness because of Sin in my Life black and white thinking grace (2)

Is my Mental Illness because of Sin in my Life?

Yes, there is ‘Sin in my life’ but there is more going on than simplistic hurtful black and white thinking. We need to grow in grace    Let’s crack the whip a bit louder against the soul. It’s always saddening when you hear the story of someone who believes their […]

God’s Love can Heal a Heart Full of Anxiety kandace rather

God’s Love can Heal a Heart Full of Anxiety

The heart can be full of anxiety from a young age. But there is hope when we are feeling helpless and vulnerable. Kandace Rather tells us how God’s love healed her heart. I remember the first time I felt panic. I was in third grade, and my mom had just […]

How to Change The Anxious Motion out of the Emotion

How to Change The Anxious Motion out of the Emotion

How did I get here? Well, it was probably down a well-worn track in your brain that said ‘when you feel this feeling you do this.’ But we can choose new ways of behaving out of our emotions. When you are feeling anxious you can choose a new motion out […]

Mental Health is ... Learning to Listen for the Whispers

Mental Health is … Learning to Listen for the Whispers

The noise of our world will never fully satisfy, but when we learn how to listen for whispers, we find a safe place for the soul. I wonder when the first sound was made? Was it a big bang or the quietest of whispers. As the sound waves vibrated out, […]

When the Darkest of Valleys becomes a Suffocating Despair

When the Darkest of Valleys becomes a Suffocating Despair

The darkest valley can become a suffocating tomb, a hole that feels impossible to dig oneself out of, but with the help of others, a step can be made, and light can shine again. Recently I went to see ‘Tolkien,’ a movie about the author J.R.R. Tolkien who wrote classics […]

Seven Tips for Counselling and Supporting men’s Mental Health

Seven Tips for Counselling and Supporting Men’s Mental Health

Men are in crisis and need help for their mental health. But one of the obstacles they face is finding counseling and support that is suited to them—seven tips on how to counsel and support men. Nine counselors. Six men and three women. That is how many counselors I have […]

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Ten Reasons Why Men Don’t Go To Counselling

Men need help for their Mental Health but have reasons they avoid counselling and therapy. We need to understand men and the obstacles they face so they can get the help they need. When I suggested he go to see a counselor to get some help with his anger, I […]

You're Not a Problem. It's Not Who You Are

You’re Not a Problem. It’s Not Who You Are

The verbal abuse kept raining down until the thought ‘I am a problem’ got nailed into the brain. But then they discovered that a problem is a problem, not a person, and they began to separate their identity from the issues. It was abuse. Verbal abuse. Dished out every day […]