I know some people who have a pig on their farm. They feed it food scraps and grass. They don’t throw it pearls. Some people don’t have the capacity to hold precious things. They simply don’t have the wisdom to hold them well. In short: Not everyone who receives your […]
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Some people can help you restore. Some you need to put out of the room. What are six qualities of people that restore the soul? Life can give you a battering at times, but there are some people that seem to be able to come alongside and help you restore. […]
When no one understands you, it can create a deep sense of loneliness. Perhaps there are reasons for the lack of being known. Forgive them anyway. Quick answer: Feeling misunderstood is one of the loneliest experiences a person can have. Often it isn’t because your story lacks value, but because […]
Safe places and safe people ask good questions that may not feel safe at all, but they have goodness flowing through them. In short: A genuinely safe place isn’t one where you’re never challenged — it’s one where you’re never condemned. True emotional safety comes from unhurried listening, gentle curiosity, […]
We can get angry to the point where we want to curse the day we were born, but being held in our anger allows us to go through and not around the pain. Quick answer: In Job 3, Job breaks seven days of silence by cursing the day he […]
Who are the five people you spend the most time with? They will be the ones who have the most influence over you. Quick answer: Your “circle of five” is the small group of people (family, friends, colleagues, even the podcasters and authors you follow) who shape your thinking, […]
Some people seem to like to rain on your parade, but we can learn how to hoist an umbrella and continue on. Quick answer: When someone rains on your parade, they dismiss, mock, or criticise the joy and creativity you share with them. It often says more about them than […]
Many of us carry secret questions, and we are hungry for answers, but we need someone safe. Someone secure in themselves yet vulnerable to listen well. When the pastor sermonized my personal story, I felt exposed. I was once in a small group in a church, where our Pastor […]
We all have a secret garden. A place we don’t want others to go near, but with three little words, we can build a bridge and not a wall. Quick answer: When a conversation suddenly hits a wall, pushing harder usually makes the wall higher. Three gentle words – “Tell […]