Quick answer: When someone won’t listen to another opinion, arguing rarely helps. A simple pen-and-paper exercise called “two trees” — where you and the other person each draw a tree, then notice that both are valid even though they look different — can open a locked mindset by making the […]
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Lose your true self to others? Explore the cup metaphor of self-love, break codependency patterns, and embrace how God uniquely made you. It was a gradual decline. Slowly they lost interest, but like a boulder rolling down a hill, it gained momentum until it was seemingly unstoppable. They had lost […]
It felt like they were trying to earn my approval, my love, my acceptance. That if they just did things right, then I would give them some sort of a royal nod of approval. Earned love, I believe, is not really love. Earned acceptance and approval always has this fear […]
Feeling overwhelmed can feel like you’re caught in a flood, but you are not alone. Reach out. I shut down. What was coming at me was too much. The brain was emotionally overloaded. I think I am a very sensitive person. Nothing wrong with that. My sensitivity helps me […]
I know some people who have a pig on their farm. They feed it food scraps and grass. They don’t throw it pearls. Some people don’t have the capacity to hold precious things. They simply don’t have the wisdom to hold them well. In short: Not everyone who receives your […]
Life can drain you. You can only do so much. The spoon theory is a wonderful metaphor to help us understand our limits. I wondered why I was so tired. I hadn’t done much I thought during the day, but upon reflection I realised I had given a lot of […]
Contention and stress can become too much. Some times it’s better to live in the corner of a roof and the simplicity of nothing than the complexity of strife. I don’t think I will ever get the image out of my memory. She was a battered woman. Maybe, in some […]
Can you live with a narcissist? Yes, but it might just kill you. Or it might just starve you from savouring life to the fullest. One of the most interesting quotes I have come across about stress is this one from French journalist Jean-Louis Servan-Schreiber What I fear most about stress is […]
I want to pray, but I don’t know how. Praying for a narcissist begins with honesty. It prays for light. Quick answer: You pray for a narcissist by first examining your own blind spots, then praying for revelation, softening, and small “millimetre” changes rather than instant transformation — while also […]
The first time I heard the Polish proverb “Not my circus, not my monkeys,” I felt quite shocked. But digging deeper, I understood what they were saying. I heard it said by a husband about his wife. It felt callous. It felt cold, and I still think it was. He […]