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Have You Been Put In A Box?

A judgment has been made, and you’ve been put in a box. Possibly you have built this box yourself? That box needs exploding from the inside out. It felt like they had been judged. A rulebook had been passed over them. Measurements had been taken. From the very few questions […]

Faith & Mental Health

Do you have Church Anxiety?

You would think that going to church should be anxiety free wouldn’t you? An email from someone came to me this week. ‘I was told [by a christian counsellor] that God’s antidote for anxiety was pray right, think right, do right. I went to church today and was filled with […]

Relationships & Connection

I’m Building a Wall

They had got so used to the intrusiveness of others that they didn’t even care anymore, but slowly a line in the sand appeared, then a fence and then they built a wall. I enjoy being kind. I am generous, probably to my own detriment, but sometimes I feel […]

Mental health Spiritual Formation Spiritual Practices

What Restores the Soul: The Three ‘P’s’

The soul can get completely drained, but what restores the soul? What can bring it back to life? People, places, and practices. Life can be draining. Too much going or too much has gone on. Now it feels like the energy tank is on ‘E’. Empty, Exhausted and not Enough. […]

Relationships & Connection

Words that heal

We hear words every day. Some words can carry an energy that hurts, but there are also words that heal. Let’s focus on words that heal and not hurt. It wasn’t just the words they said; it was the energy behind them that truly cut me to shreds. It was […]

Faith & Mental Health

You Can’t Make It On Your Own

We think we can do it all, manage life ourselves, but you simply can’t. You discover you can’t make it on your own. They were told by their closest companion that they should not need others to affirm them. That they should be able to do it themselves. They should […]

Relationships & Connection

We all Need a Third Place for Our Mental Health

There’s work, home, and loneliness, but maybe a third place can be the place of hope. Let’s make one together. I’m looking for a third place, and I think you might be too. It’s a place where I feel I belong and there is no pressure to perform, to do, […]

Relationships & Connection

A Love That Crosses A Line

When we’re half dead and want to be fully alive, we need a love that crosses a line. He was half dead. She had been stripped naked. They had worked him over, taking enjoyment from the assault. I leaned down over her nakedness and heard a whisper, ‘Help me.’ I […]

Relationships & Connection

The Making of a Void

There is a kind of loneliness that feels like a huge void has been opened up, and you’re broken on the other side. But there is one that crosses the void to bring connection. I’m still trying to understand why they avoided me. They knew I was in a mess, […]

Getting Well Staying Well Mental health Relationships

Who are the Five people you spend the most time with?

Who are the Five people you spend the most time with? They will be the ones who have the most influence over you. Her response to a betrayal of friendship has probably helped thousands of others to get a better group of friends. The other day I was listening to […]