Personal Growth Archives

Little by Little: How Small Steps Can Topple Your Biggest Giants

Stop feeling overwhelmed by life’s “giants.” Learn how small, intentional actions and a simple problem-solving sheet can reduce anxiety. Do you ever feel that your problems are too huge to be solved? That the mountain is, or at least feels, unsurmountable. Past experiences can wire your brain to look […]

Trauma & Recovery

Do you Self-Sabotage?

You step out to make a change, but then it stops. There is sabotage, a self-sabotage, but with good listening we can see movement forward. One of the saddest things you can see is when someone sets out to change some aspect of their life, they get to a certain […]

Relationships & Connection

Throwing Pearls to Pigs

I know some people who have a pig on their farm. They feed it food scraps and grass. They don’t throw it pearls. Some people don’t have the capacity to hold precious things. They don’t have the wisdom to hold well. I think one of the most hurtful and […]

Spiritual Practices

Stringing Pearls for The Delight of Heaven

We could rake the muck forever, but what about stringing pearls? What will bring the delight of heaven to full song? I recently watched someone restringing a necklace of pearls. With mindful precision, a fine silk cord was taken and inserted through the pearls with a small needle. A […]

Relationships & Connection

Better Boundaries?

‘You need better boundaries’. How many have said this to you? How about a better knowing of yourself first? Often when you go to see a counsellor for the first time, they hand you a sheet of paper with a list of expectations and boundaries. Very few ask the counselee […]

Trauma & Recovery

The Problem is The Problem – Not the Person

We all have problems, but we can over-personalise them. But the problem is the problem. Not the person. There is something sneaky about problems in that, over time, starting from being a little child, problems can morph and sneak into your thinking so much so that you see yourself as […]

Spiritual Practices

I Am A Product Of …

Many things go into the shaping of one’s life. ‘I am a product of long corridors, empty sunlit rooms’ says C.S. Lewis. What are you the product of? Mathematics wasn’t my strongest topic at school, but somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind I recall the term ‘product’. […]

Relationships & Connection

What Type of Ball are You?

There are all sorts of people in this world, and there are also all sorts of balls. If you could describe yourself as a ball, what type of ball would you be? Wrecking ball to table tennis ball. I have vague memories of the first ball I ever had. […]

Spiritual Practices

I’m Looking for Wisdom more than Silver, Gold, and Rubies

We place value on things such as beauty, strength, power and riches, but there is something more valuable. I want wisdom more than silver, gold, and rubies. I couldn’t believe it. I was doing some research for this post and found that there is a website where you can measure […]

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Anxiety & Stress

It’s not ‘Two steps forward and Three steps back’

Progress and change can seem like ‘two steps forward and three steps back’ but maybe the steps need to be millimetres and with gradual gentle side ways movements we can see movement. It was disappointing when then they said it. In fact, it was surprising. They said it with good […]