Quick answer: Maladaptive daydreaming is a compulsive retreat into vivid inner worlds for hours at a time, often to escape loneliness or pain, until real life starts to suffer. Underneath it usually sits a belief: the real me isn’t enough to be loved. Fighting the daydream rarely works. Naming that […]
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Quick answer: Many people carry their darkest struggles alone for years, surrounded by people who know about them but have never come close enough to truly know them. Healing begins when someone is willing to meet you at your “coal face”: to listen without fixing, to see past the […]
Hidden away? Longing to be sought after? In the parable of the pearl merchant, we find a lover with a quest. Imagine yourself as a child and you’re at a friend’s birthday party. A game is played. Hide and seek. Your friend, the one who is celebrating the birthday, is […]
When no one understands you, it can create a deep sense of loneliness. Perhaps there are reasons for the lack of being known. Forgive them anyway. Quick answer: Feeling misunderstood is one of the loneliest experiences a person can have. Often it isn’t because your story lacks value, but because […]
They were too naked in their vulnerability. Too much too soon, but with careful listening, time, and respect, they began to feel deeply known. They had been too naked with their vulnerability. They thought they were safe with this friend, that what they shared wouldn’t be exposed. But it was […]
‘If you really knew me, would you still love me?’ A grounded reality of knowing God speaks ‘You are loved no matter what’.
For some reason we prefer fabricated realities to the
strong and sensitizing face of what is.
The spiritual life begins with accepting and
living our reality. Richard Rohr
I know someone who lies and embellishes the truth. They want to be known and loved but the facade of lies they have built up around themselves has become their truth.
Sometimes, when they feel safe, they let their guard down and the honesty flows. It’s beautiful to watch.
Being known is our deepest need. Discover how shame and stigma build walls, and how to start breaking the cycle. To be known is to be pursued, examined, and shaken. To be known is to be loved and to have hopes and even demands placed on you. It is to […]