Quick answer: Maladaptive daydreaming is a compulsive retreat into vivid inner worlds for hours at a time, often to escape loneliness or pain, until real life starts to suffer. Underneath it usually sits a belief: the real me isn’t enough to be loved. Fighting the daydream rarely works. Naming that […]
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Quick answer: Many people carry their darkest struggles alone for years, surrounded by people who know about them but have never come close enough to truly know them. Healing begins when someone is willing to meet you at your “coal face”: to listen without fixing, to see past the […]
Words spoken can become sentences we carry. Verdicts we live inside. Discover how faith rewrites generational trauma. Jump to: What Is a “Sentence”? Generational Trauma Isn’t Just Personal — It’s Cultural Where Faith Meets Generational Trauma How to Break the Cycle: Trace It, Face It, Replace It You Are Not […]
There are things about me that I don’t want others to see. In fact, I probably don’t want to see them myself. There is a resistance to go “there,” but I have a good shepherd who keeps calling me back to an ancient path intersection. A place where there is […]
When guilt isolates, “I am with you” is the only bridge back to hope. The power of solidarity helps us in the face of judgment and shame. How are they going to respond? How will they react? They had done some things they knew would go against what everyone thought […]
Being put to shame is to have comparisons made and to see yourself as being flawed — but a refuge can be found, and hope can be restored. I could see him withering under a hailstorm of accusations. He had a sexual addiction, and he was trying to stay true, […]
Our brains can keep reminding us. ‘My Sin is Ever Before Me’ writes the poet, but what if we had a purifier? It’s ever before me. It’s in my face. If there was a common theme, I get from many of those who email me it is the sense […]
It’s a broken world where we desperately need hope, but God is compassion, and so we get to live again. The other day I found some mouse droppings in my kitchen. Concerned about the hygiene of the kitchen, I set a trap. Peanut butter would be the temptation that […]
Sitting with shame can suffocate life, but sitting in solidarity with someone in soul talk can break its control. It’s there if you want to hear it. A sneaky, whispery voice from the past. You hear it in others. They may have said nothing directly to you, but it’s […]
Taking absolute responsibility for your actions can be overwhelming, but hope can be restored when absolute forgiveness is offered. I don’t like it, and I’m sure you don’t either. It’s when you’re confronted with something you have done wrong. You want to run; you want to hide. Perhaps you make excuses, blame […]