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Have You Been Put In A Box?

A judgment has been made, and you’ve been put in a box. Possibly you have built this box yourself? That box needs exploding from the inside out. It felt like they had been judged. A rulebook had been passed over them. Measurements had been taken. From the very few questions […]

Faith & Mental Health

Parable of the Pearl: The Delight of Being Sought

Hidden away? Longing to be sought after? In the parable of the pearl merchant, we find a lover with a quest. Imagine yourself as a child and you’re at a friend’s birthday party. A game is played. Hide and seek. Your friend, the one who is celebrating the birthday, is […]

Faith & Mental Health

Narcissism: A God-shaped hole

There is a God-shaped hole in me. A narcissism entrancement holds me, but I can break the spell when I invite Jesus into the void. There once was an Australian sitcom that I used to watch. It was called Kath and Kim. The two central characters were Kath, the […]

Depression & Low Mood

My Sin is Ever Before Me

Our brains can keep reminding us. ‘My Sin is Ever Before Me’ writes the poet, but what if we had a purifier? It’s ever before me. It’s in my face. If there was a common theme, I get from many of those who email me it is the sense […]

Faith & Mental Health

Are You Comfortable With Beauty?

And there was beauty, but are you comfortable with beauty in yourself and others? I suppose we are mirrors of beauty to a hungry world. I love to look at beauty. A sunrise or a sunset. A rose in the garden or a bird singing for joy. I recognise beauty […]

Spiritual Practices

I Am A Product Of …

Many things go into the shaping of one’s life. ‘I am a product of long corridors, empty sunlit rooms’ says C.S. Lewis. What are you the product of? Mathematics wasn’t my strongest topic at school, but somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind I recall the term ‘product’. […]

Faith & Mental Health

Why Was I Created?

It wasn’t random. It wasn’t chance. It wasn’t the roll of some celestial dice or the flip of a coin. Your creation was part of a work of art God has had in mind for all eternity. I know that’s hard to believe. It seems so vast, immeasurable, and beyond […]

Faith & Mental Health

The Shape of You

What’s your shape? I’m not talking about your body shape, i.e., weight, tall, thin, short, or wide. I’m more interested in who you are under the skin. What has happened to shape you into the person you are? What is your personality like? What do you like to eat? Favorite […]

Trauma & Recovery

Lines

We all have lines around us. Mostly invisible. People cross the lines, and we are hurt, but we also cross the lines of others. The line had been crossed so many times that they were losing their own personal identity. Bullies, thugs, robbers, and thieves had crossed over into their […]

Trauma & Recovery

You’re not a Problem to be Fixed

Sometimes you can feel like you are a problem to be fixed, but you’re not that. You may have problems, but not a problem. You’re not a problem to be fixed. Neither are you a personality to be probed. You’re not a diagnosis, a number, or a category. You may […]