empathy

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Where is That Overreaction Coming From History based pain

Where is That Overreaction Coming From?

We can have an overreaction to life’s events, but when we search out what’s behind the reaction, we often find history-based pain. Let’s help the prickly pear. It was a reaction I wasn’t expecting. I had made a few jokes, and their response wasn’t to have a simple laugh with […]

Please. No Fixing, Advising, Saving or Straightening Out

Please. No Fixing, Advising, Saving or Straightening Out

If you want to hear the heart of another, then you need to still your own. Fixing, advising, saving, or straightening out will only stifle the emergence of true wisdom. We need to listen with questions.  Sometimes I want to tell some people to shut up and just listen. They […]

Let's Rethink the Word 'Boundary'

Let’s Rethink the Word ‘Boundary’

I struggle with the word ‘Boundary.’ Not because I don’t believe in the concept of boundaries or because I don’t think they are important.  It’s just that the word ‘Boundary’ doesn’t convey any sense of relationship value. The word ‘boundary’ feels like it’s all about the one making the boundary […]