Where is That Overreaction Coming From?

Where is That Overreaction Coming From History based pain

We can have an overreaction to life’s events, but when we search out what’s behind the reaction, we often find history-based pain. Let’s help the prickly pear.

It was a reaction I wasn’t expecting. I had made a few jokes, and their response wasn’t to have a simple laugh with me but to get highly defensive and even go on the attack.

Have you ever wondered why some people take offense even to something seemingly unoffensive?

Where no harm was meant but there sure was a reaction! Continue reading “Where is That Overreaction Coming From?”

Why Men Don’t Talk. 26 Reasons for Silence

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Men aren’t talking, but they need to. We need to enter the cave of man’s mind and encourage him to talk. Words flow when we listen well.

It was early in the morning, and I was driving to the first job of the day. The day was starting dark, cold, and wet, and I was listening to the radio when I heard a deep and serious voice come to my ears.

Friday, August 9th [2019] is Radio Hauraki’s ‘No Talk Day.’
We’re not talking, to encourage Kiwi men to start.

Last year, 668 Kiwis took their own lives.
475 of these were men. [71%]

On average, more than 1 Kiwi male took their own life each day.
It could be your mate, your dad, your brother, or even your son.

Sometimes men feel they can’t open up about what’s affecting them
so they just don’t talk. Continue reading “Why Men Don’t Talk. 26 Reasons for Silence”

Ten Reasons Why Men Don’t Go To Counselling

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Men need help for their Mental Health but have reasons why they avoid counseling and therapy. We need to understand men and the obstacles they face so they can get the help they need.

When I suggested he go to see a counselor to get some help with his anger, I could see the walls go up.

It wasn’t just his anger, that was simply a symptom of something more profound, a pot boiling over because he didn’t know how to turn the heat down. No, there were struggles that with all the will power he could muster, he still couldn’t change.

So he lived a false life.

A fine veneer on the outside but cheap rotting chipboard under the surface.

He’s lived this way for over fifty years now, and he probably will for the next.

When all he wants is respect, those who know him well treat him with caution. Continue reading “Ten Reasons Why Men Don’t Go To Counselling”

I Want to Die – 530,000 Google Searches per Month

I Want to Die - 530,000 Google Searches per Month

As you read this post someone somewhere will typing into Google search ‘I want to die.’ But what are they truly searching for? I believe it is a connection and a simple plan to get out of the hole they are in.  

A year ago, February 2018, I wrote a post with the title ‘I’ve had Enough, Take my Life God, I Want to die.’ 

What has been remarkable has been the response.

  • 2821 page views
  • 82% came via search
  • 14 page views per day (currently)
  • Average time spent on page – 2 minutes 

Continue reading “I Want to Die – 530,000 Google Searches per Month”

I’ve had Enough, Take my Life God, I Want to die

I’ve had Enough, Take my Life God, I Want to die

Overwhelming emotions can take you to where you want to die. It’s what happens when it all becomes too much for us mere humans to handle.

The other day I was watching a news reporter standing in a stream swollen with water from a recent storm. Water was rushing down against his legs, and he talked about the overwhelming power of the current.

Many people die when their footing is lost to the overwhelming power of what is simply a collection of water droplets joined together. Continue reading “I’ve had Enough, Take my Life God, I Want to die”

18 Insights to Heal the Shame of an Attempted Suicide

18 INSIGHTS TO HEAL THE SHAME OF AN ATTEMPTED SUICIDE

The shame of an attempt at suicide can cling onto you like the odor of some dirty old socks. You would do anything to get rid of that stench. Is that a good description of shame?

That feeling of embarrassment at what you have done. You want to hide, run, cover it up, but it’s still there. Those smelly old socks still stink.

Recently I was asked a question by one of the readers of Turning the Page about how to help someone who had recently attempted suicide. In the midst of their crisis, they had posted their intentions out on Social Media. Now they had a deep sense of shame and embarrassment. They feared that people would treat them differently.

So how would you help someone like this? Continue reading “18 Insights to Heal the Shame of an Attempted Suicide”

MEDICATION, GOD AND CHRISTIANS. WHAT IS HELPFUL? PART 2

It is one of those memories that is special to me. I was very unwell as a child with eczema and asthma. My parents asked if our pastor and a few others could come and pray for me.

They were following the advice we find in James 5:14. We had communion together and then they put some oil on my forehead and asked God to heal my illnesses. [pullquote]Are you sick? Call the church leaders together to pray and anoint you with oil in the name of the Master. James 5:14[/pullquote]

I wouldn’t say there was any miraculous instantaneous healing. No thunderous change took place, but I knew that I was not alone and that some godly men and women loved me and prayed for me.

Over time those illnesses left me. Continue reading “MEDICATION, GOD AND CHRISTIANS. WHAT IS HELPFUL? PART 2”

What to Do When Fatigue Hits Your Heart

Fatigue seems to sap out any reserve you might have to go on.

I remember visiting him in the Intensive Care Unit in our local hospital. After a huge overdose of pills he had woken up to discover he was still alive. His attempt at suicide had not succeeded.

His story was not unfamiliar. He had battled his addiction for years. Day after day. Then it got the better of him, and when his whole world crashed around him he decided to crash out of it. [pullquote]Beneath what our culture calls psychological disorder is a soul crying for what only community can provide. Larry Crabb[/pullquote]

This was years ago, but just the other day he shared with me his excitement at the news of becoming a grandfather.

Wonderful I thought, it was worth all the struggle of rebuild for the joy set before him of holding a new born baby in his arms.

Fatigue hits me too. Continue reading “What to Do When Fatigue Hits Your Heart”

8 Steps To Discovering Wellness Through Knowing Your Early Warning Signs

8 Steps To Discovering Wellness Through Knowing Your Early Warning Signs

Often I travel over some sharp twisty roads. One of these roads has a large hill, and just on the other side, there is a beautiful view with a fence that has been driven through. The driver didn’t take notice of the early warning signs.

There are signs to tell drivers to slow down, but for this driver, the signs were ignored, boundaries were crossed and lives put in danger.

If you know the signs, then you can avoid the catastrophe. Continue reading “8 Steps To Discovering Wellness Through Knowing Your Early Warning Signs”

6 Keys To Helping Someone Who Is Suicidal and wants to die

6 Keys To Helping Someone Who Is Suicidal

Suicidal thoughts, feelings, and a desire to die can become overwhelmingly strong. But you can help people to move through this. You can learn how to help.

They reach out to you for help.

You have noticed your best friend, family member, or workmate being more withdrawn than usual. They have had a huge disappointment recently, a redundancy, a relationship breakdown, and even though on the outside they seem fine, you sense that something is not quite right.

So you ask, ‘Are you OK?’  Continue reading “6 Keys To Helping Someone Who Is Suicidal and wants to die”