Quick answer: The popular Christian book Love & Respect teaches that men primarily need respect and women primarily need love. Former mental health nurse Susanna Warner disagrees: women need respect as much as men, and everyone needs both. Respect shows up in small, repeated things, being noticed, listened to and […]
Relationships & Connection
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I need a nest that I can call home. Actually, digging down a little further, I need a grouping of relationships that know me, love me, and have compassion and kindness when I get things wrong. The other day I was pruning a vine and there high above my head […]
Why you get so angry can give a clear direction about who you truly are. It’s a matter of the heart. Your anger can indicate what you hold most dear. As they became more whole, the anger started to simmer, then boil, and then it flowed over the containment of […]
Trust can get broken so easily, but we can build a new trust by cognitively reassessing our situations. It takes time and effort, but it is worth it. There was a rebuilding that needed to happen. It was a rebuilding of trust in themselves and with others. Somewhere, sometime, everyone […]
We all have a secret garden. A place we don’t want others to go near, but with three little words, we can build a bridge and not a wall. Quick answer: When a conversation suddenly hits a wall, pushing harder usually makes the wall higher. Three gentle words – “Tell […]
You might be helping them too much and hinder any progress for them and yourself, but we can learn new ways of helping and see the change we want for them and ourselves. She was helping too much, and the person she was helping didn’t mind one little bit. In […]
Six people you don’t want help from, and there could be more; therefore, it’s time to detach from them and have them leave your emotional room. There are some people that I am wary of getting help from or even suggesting others get help from. They may be well-meaning, have […]
It was the feelings of a guilt trip and the words of being a ‘Brothers Keeper’ that triggered me. But was it genuinely helping me and them to think this way? Something needed to change. Some people seem to be able to push the manipulation guilt trip button every time. […]
‘Power over’ was normal, but ‘power with’ was what they needed. When we listen deeply, we move forward. Mental health flourishes when power is shared. She was small in stature, and I think she also saw herself as being a little person, insignificant. She was also quiet and never really […]
Life has challenges and can’t be faced alone, but with the help of faithful and loyal friends, we can make it through. We all need a Batman. In short: A batman was a soldier assigned to serve and protect an officer through the hardest campaigns. Tolkien’s Samwise Gamgee, Ruth, Jonathan, […]