How can a person know when they have truly forgiven someone else. What is the difference between true forgiveness and simply stuffing down or sweeping under the rug your feelings? It is tempting for Christians to try to forgive quickly in order to ease their minds and resolve the conflict. […]
Relationships & Connection
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Harsh words and rough hands can abuse but are we meant to turn the other cheek and accept the abuse. No, we are to grow in dignity. She had given into the bully 365 times too many. She had been cheek-slapped all of the marriage. For him, he had accepted […]
When the crisis hits, you need someone who believes in you. Someone who will be like a rock of confidence. While you are shaky and weak, they are steady and sure. For that next step in recovery, you have to know someone is there, right beside you. Not to […]
Sometimes you have to have the hard talk with someone about unacceptable behavior in a meeting. It may be a church service, a bible study, even just having a one to one talk with someone and you are interrupted. They might have been talking out loud to a friend while everyone […]
Being known is our deepest need. Discover how shame and stigma build walls, and how to start breaking the cycle. To be known is to be pursued, examined, and shaken. To be known is to be loved and to have hopes and even demands placed on you. It is to […]
We all make mistakes; we all stuff up. The feelings of regret, shame, maybe even guilt can plague and loom over us like a dark cloud. How do we learn to come out from that cloud? We need to eat more Swiss cheese! Ok, now I don’t want you to […]
I started my career in Mental Health support in a large old boarding house that was a kind of halfway house for people needing quite intensive support. Hanging on the wall of the lounge was a wooden plaque with this Māori Proverb on it. The Proverb on the Wall He […]
There are some people that just push my buttons! Something about them sets off a chain reaction of thoughts and feelings. Perhaps they remind me of someone else or something that has happened in the past. A memory echo bounces around my soul. If I am going to be a […]
Ever had people try to tear you down. Rotten tomatoes are thrown. Lies spoken, gossip spread, stories twisted, your good name being smeared. All of this leaving you alone in a pool of tears wondering what is going on. The Apostle Paul knew exactly what it was like to experience […]
Men and Women are different We all know this! We have been wired quite differently by God to be complementary to each other. Now, this blog post is not designed to be a place where we will argue black and white views; there is a lot of grey in the […]