We all have lines around us. Mostly invisible. People cross the lines, and we are hurt, but we also cross the lines of others. The line had been crossed so many times that they were losing their own personal identity. Bullies, thugs, robbers, and thieves had crossed over into their […]
boundaries
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Sometimes you can feel like you are a problem to be fixed, but you’re not that. You may have problems, but not a problem. You’re not a problem to be fixed. Neither are you a personality to be probed. You’re not a diagnosis, a number, or a category. You may […]
We pick them up. Little hurts, big hurts. But how do we learn not to keep a record of wrongs that clogs the arteries of our life? I visited a friend the other day, and they invited me into their home. As we wandered from room to room, everything was […]
People say you need boundaries, but what do you want to protect? When you know your ‘YES,’ you will be able to express your ‘NO.’ This website is founded on the word ‘Yes,’ but in order for the Yes to be realized ‘No’ has been said multiple times. I have recently […]
To demand or expect forgiveness is one of the clearest signs of fake repentance. It is like a chess player trying to manipulate the board rather than an offender offering a true change of heart. Real repentance submits itself to the poetry of waiting, praying, and hoping—never coercion. They thought […]
Who are the five people you spend the most time with? They will be the ones who have the most influence over you. Quick answer: Your “circle of five” is the small group of people (family, friends, colleagues, even the podcasters and authors you follow) who shape your thinking, […]
Are you tired of being the Scapegoat but don’t know how to stop it? Six key steps to stop being the dumping ground of other people’s rubbish. She felt like they were making her a scapegoat. They were saying she was responsible for all the terrible things that had happened. […]
Quick answer: The popular Christian book Love & Respect teaches that men primarily need respect and women primarily need love. Former mental health nurse Susanna Warner disagrees: women need respect as much as men, and everyone needs both. Respect shows up in small, repeated things, being noticed, listened to and […]
We’ve all fallen to the oldest trick in the book, but we need to know the oldest truth in the book. Knowing the difference between ministry and manipulation. I watched them do it. They said a few words, suggested some options, smiled in a certain way, and waited. It wasn’t […]
It can be so debilitating to be told ‘you need to have boundaries,’ but as you grow the heart, a new empowered strength slowly builds within. ‘You really need to have boundaries’ How many times have you heard this said or even said it yourself? I always feel a little […]