You step out to make a change, but then it stops. There is sabotage, a self-sabotage, but with good listening we can see movement forward One of the saddest things you can see is when someone sets out to change some aspect of their life, they get to a certain […]
emotional healing
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She crossed a line with her words, a line that was getting thinner with every wag of the tongue, but what could be done to help them both? It was the evening of the very first day of the year (2025). A beautiful summer’s day here in New Zealand. […]
We all have problems, but we can over-personalise them. But the problem is the problem. Not the person. There is something sneaky about problems in that, over time, starting from being a little child, problems can morph and sneak into your thinking so much so that you see yourself as […]
When the receiving of love has strings attached, then is it really love? Love is a Gift With no Strings Attached. In many of the gardens I visit, they have garden hoses, and for the last few years many gardeners have been installing retractable hose reels. They are quite a […]
I never saw it coming -the cataclysmic argument that triggered my adult son to estrange me three years ago. I might never see it end -the suffering of ambiguous loss of the relationship without closure. Coined by family therapist Pauline Boss, Ph.D., 40 years ago, ambiguous loss refers to unresolved […]
Fear can be like a shadow creeping up and over you, but what do you fear the most? Understanding what you fear the most can bring assurance. It was a simple wire bridge on a confidence course. Not very high, the three-wire bridge was a challenge for some and not […]
If you were to open my mother’s Bible, the first thing you would notice would be the handwritten verses and quotes that helped her mental health. Bible verses that can truly bring help. Dig a little further and you would come across underlined verses, cut out sections from the church […]
I’ve been allergic to egg all my life. At times I have even ended up in a hospital when I have inadvertently eaten egg. One time as a child I went to a camp and the cooks thought that I was just being fussy. They didn’t tell that what I […]
Sometimes you have to let the little fish go. Those little offenses that need to be forgiven and let go of. I think I must have been aged 6 or 7 when I caught my first fish. It was a sprat. I went on to catch other fish. When […]
So why did you have me born? I wish no one had ever laid eyes on me! I wish I had never been born I wish I had never been born I wish I’d never lived—a stillborn, buried without ever having breathed. Isn’t it time to call it quits on […]