A Wellness Path

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Three Words to Build a Bridge Instead of a Wall into the Secret Garden.

Tell Me More: How Three Words Build Bridges, Not Walls

We all have a secret garden. A place we don’t want others to go near, but with three little words, we can build a bridge and not a wall. Quick answer: When a conversation suddenly hits a wall, pushing harder usually makes the wall higher. Three gentle words – “Tell […]

When You're Feeling Stuck in a Dark Hole depression

When You’re Feeling Stuck in a Dark Hole

Quick answer: When you’re stuck in a dark hole of depression, telling yourself to “pull yourself together” rarely works, and shame only makes you sink deeper. What helps is connection: a “bird’s nest” of people who each bring something to your recovery, a rope of reaching out so their support […]

Where is That Overreaction Coming From History based pain

Where is That Overreaction Coming From?

We can have an overreaction to life’s events, but when we search out what’s behind the reaction, we often find history-based pain. Let’s help the prickly pear. It was a reaction I wasn’t expecting. I had made a few jokes, and their response wasn’t to have a simple laugh with […]

Can you Be Kind to Yourself rest

Be Kind to Yourself: How to Quiet the Inner Critic and Find Rest

Being kind to yourself means noticing the inner critic that tells you “you’re not enough” or “you should try harder” — and choosing rest and grace instead of pushing harder. It’s not self-indulgence; it’s recognizing your human limits and trusting that you don’t have to earn your worth. Rest, understood […]