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To Listen to them, Be Quick Listen to Your ‘Self’

Listening to others can be frustrating, but when we listen to our ‘self,’ we might find the key to compassionate listening to others. Going deep, where life is indeed happening, requires us to stop and be slow. Be quick to listen to your self. I wondered why I was getting […]

Helping Others Mental health

Why Men Don’t Talk. 26 Reasons for Silence

Men aren’t talking, but they need to. We need to enter the cave of man’s mind and encourage him to talk. Words flow when we listen well. It was early in the morning, and I was driving to the first job of the day. The day was starting dark, cold, […]

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Don’t be Loyal to the Delusions of an Emperor in Undies

When we are loyal to our lies, we are like an emperor in undies. Delusions believed as truth will destroy. We need to be open to others gently telling us when we have been conned. One of my favorite stories from Hans Christian Andersen is “The Emperor’s New Clothes.” Here […]

Helping Others Relationships

Stop The Bully. Stop The Shouting.

When the verbal vomit from a shouting bully has been heaved over your life, you need to recover and get smart. Empower yourself with some worded wisdom. It wasn’t just the loudness of voice; it was also the barrage of words. Condemning, harsh, judgemental words flowing wild and free like […]

Mental health

You Don’t Want to, But you Keep Going back

You just keep going back to something that actually repulses you. It maybe sniffing the vomit or wallowing in the mud, but you keep returning to foolishness. Perhaps it’s a change of heart that’s needed. They kept on repeatedly going back to experience the same abuse. They could see that […]

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Wallowing in the past won’t add to your future

There is a time for everything, but wallowing in your past will create an endless rut of misery. Isn’t it time to allow God, who knows all, to take the unknowns and allow you to walk in today? I always like a good wallow, don’t you? It’s like a warm, […]

Getting Well Staying Well Relationships

Rules + Regulations – Relationships = Rebellion + Resentment

Developing a relationship with God where we feel loved and graced upon is the most precious gift you can give your mental health. Rules and regulations without relationship will only lead to rebellion and resentment. Grace and forgiveness bring healing. Isn’t it interesting how early experiences shape your view of […]

Helping Others

Please. No Fixing, Advising, Saving or Straightening Out

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If you want to hear the heart of another, then you need to still your own. Fixing, advising, saving, or straightening out will only stifle the emergence of true wisdom. We need to listen with questions. Sometimes I want to tell some people to shut up and just listen. They […]

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Relationships & Connection

Building Community and Relationships in our Everyday Lives

Community brings so many positive effects on our mental health. Community lifts us higher and takes us further towards wellness than we ever could get on our own. Anyone wishing to enhance their mental health or the mental health of others does well to find a way to plug into […]

Getting Well Staying Well Mental health

The 3 Lies of “I Can’t,” “They Can’t” and “I Won’t”

The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. Can’t is really won’t and with stubborn self-protecting pride, we stifle life. There are three lies that will keep you stuck. I can’t change; They can’t change; Things won’t change.