Personal Growth

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Stringing Pearls for The Delight of Heaven rake the muck

Stringing Pearls for The Delight of Heaven

We could rake the muck forever, but what about stringing pearls? What will bring the delight of heaven to full song?    I recently watched someone restringing a necklace of pearls. With mindful precision, a fine silk cord was taken and inserted through the pearls with a small needle. A […]

The Problem is The Problem - Not the Person

The Problem is The Problem – Not the Person

We all have problems, but we can over-personalise them. But the problem is the problem. Not the person. There is something sneaky about problems in that, over time, starting from being a little child, problems can morph and sneak into your thinking so much so that you see yourself as […]

Are you Trying to Control the Uncontrollable?

Are you Trying to Control the Uncontrollable?

We face struggles, so we try to control the uncontrollable, but this brings even more stress. Better to stay in the zone of what we can control – ourselves. It was out of my control. The decision on how they would treat me was beyond my control. Have you ever […]

A Change In Behavior, A Change In the Mind

A Change In Behavior, A Change In the Mind

We want a behavior change, but it doesn’t seem to happen. However, it will happen with many changes in the mind (repentance). We always notice significant behavior change, don’t we? Yet, people who change dramatically are often given the stage and a microphone to trumpet the difference. I remember as […]

How to Stop Being the Scapegoat. Six Keys

How to Stop Being the Scapegoat. Six Keys

Are you tired of being the Scapegoat but don’t know how to stop it? Six key steps to stop being the dumping ground of other people’s rubbish.  She felt like they were making her a scapegoat. They were saying she was responsible for all the terrible things that had happened. […]

10 reasons men avoid therapy, including fear, DIY attitude, cost, and female bias in mental health counseling.

Ten Reasons Why Men Don’t Go To Counselling

Men need help for their Mental Health but have reasons they avoid counselling and therapy. We need to understand men and the obstacles they face so they can get the help they need. When I suggested he go to see a counselor to get some help with his anger, I […]

You're Not a Problem. It's Not Who You Are

You’re Not a Problem. It’s Not Who You Are

The verbal abuse kept raining down until the thought ‘I am a problem’ got nailed into the brain. But then they discovered that a problem is a problem, not a person, and they began to separate their identity from the issues. It was abuse. Verbal abuse. Dished out every day […]

Real Men get Real about Their Mental Health

Real Men get Real about Their Mental Health

No one likes being truly honest about the reality of a Mental Illness. Progress happens when we get real and learn to understand what truly is going on. John had been to see the psychologist for some personality tests for upcoming career changes. When the psychologist just dropped into the […]